Faithful Friday ~ Motherhood

 

 

This is something that you may not agree with, and may strike a huge nerve in you. I hope no matter what you find the positive in mother hood!

This is something really big to me. It’s not a job, it’s not a hobby, it’s a calling from God. I believe we are blessed with children, not cursed, as many think. So many see our children as a burden, and feel they have to stop living or give up their dreams and goals. But that is so not the truth.  When I hear the comments about my older friends that have young children, large families, about us that made the choice to bless a hard to handle sweetie through adoption, and all others that are looked at negatively, such as “do they know what causes that?” or my favorite, “Wow, what a handful”.. I say respond with this, Yes I know what causes this Love (being from either adoption or biological), and no, it’s not a handful, it’s a heart full! People need to boldly step out and be proud to be parents! It’s something so special and a huge blessing, and shouldn’t be something we tend to bow down about.

 

Something I don’t share a lot of details on, as I never want it to come across in a negative way. Because even at the hardest times, she is a blessing and a gift from God. And I am thankful we have her and not someone else. As well, as I focus on the good and the positives in our lives, as to me they grow up way to fast. Life is way to precious to dwell on the negatives or harder times. They only help me cherish and appreciate the others.  But one of my little ones is sometimes a hard to handle one, as she is still dealing with some of the affects of being a drug baby. Many people comment and say such horrible stuff about us and about her. I always say “God blessed us with her and her with us. And can you imagine why? Because we love her and nothing will change that, and I wouldn’t ever hurt her, yet you have just said you would have already. Yes sometimes it’s a handful, but know what it’s ALWAYS a Heartful!”  They look stumped and surprised and sometimes change their tone, others still see it negative.

 

God  blesses us with a calling, so we need to act as if it is a calling. Instead of saying stuff such as, I just wish I could have a night out with my girl friends and not a worry about the kids, or I send my kids to day care/school/ etc because I want my own time without them around, or what about this I’ll have an abortion because I am not ready to be a mom/ I’ll have an abortion because the child would stand in the way of my dreams! These erk me so bad! Maybe you are pregnant because God has a calling for you. I don’t see a child out there as a mistake! And even if you want to give the child up for adoption, that is ok, it’s blessing and you are still a birth mom and an Adoptive mom is out there waiting. But to just shut the door on such a calling no matter what the type or situation is, is terrible to me.

 

Yes all I ever wanted to be was a mom. But more than that I knew God wanted me to. I do not see my battle of infertility as a curse, but as a blessing to insure I adopted the precious children that God had planned for me. I really do see it this way. We plan our lives around our kids and what is good for them. We do dinner out with our kids, we do movies with the kids, we do trips with the kids, and we do anything we want with the kids. We take them to Motor Cycle Shows, Craft Shows, or anything else. You see they are a blessing, and my heart is full now that I have them. And I don’t want to live without them! This meaning all the things I do in my life, I do with them in  mind. Do not get me wrong, an occasional night night or time out with the girls is ok. But the all the time leaving children at home, while you live your life is what I’m talking about, or those that abort these babies because the pregnancy or child will stand in their way. Children are a blessing, not a mistake! Never a mistake!

Psalm 139:13: "For You formed my inward parts

So with this, I don’t see them being a curse or a mistake at all, no way, no shape, not possible.

 

Also scripture tells us this:

Psalm 127:3 Children are a gift from the Lord; they are a reward from him.

 

I really hope that in this somewhere it helped one person to not see Motherhood as a curse or problem. I hope they see it as the Blessing it is.

 

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